living life yellow.
the ramblings of a 21 year old
So I've started slacking on the blogs again so sorry.. Let's just accept my procrastination and move on..
Next week on Saturday (June, 9th, 2018) I would have been alive for 20 years! That's two decades. It doesn't even feel that long ago that I was celebrating my 10th birthday with a high school musical themed party.
20 is quite a daunting age to me. I guess it's because I'm no longer a teenager and at 20, I'm going to have to be a "real" adult. I'm terrified and excited at the same time.
I am also taking turning 20 as time to reflect. I like to do this so that way I can remember that the past 20 years were not a total waste of time!
Here is 20 things I learnt before I turned 20!
1) Mum knows best.
As much as I hate to admit it, my Mum actually knows whats best for me. As I have gotten older, and especially in the past year, I have needed my Mum more than ever. All the "friendly reminders" (nagging) is to keep me on track, and without that, I don't know where I would be today. I have also learnt that I can talk to Mum about anything and I wish I did more growing up.
2) Be kind to Dad.
The best way to describe my Dad would be goofy and trying his best. Due to our very similar personalities we often clash, meaning we are either best friends or having a yelling match across the house. Life is just so much easier when we are getting along so by minimising my attitude, we tend to get a long great. Also, just because Dad can't say no to me, I shouldn't take advantage of that
3) Boys suck sometimes.
This one is pretty self explanatory. Heartbreak sucks. But you will get back up and be stronger than ever.
4) You can't make people like you.
You might be an apple and some people just don't like apples. Respect peoples decisions and respect them. Just because you don't see eye to eye, doesn't justify a bad attitude towards them.
5) Not knowing what to do with your life is ok.
In my last couple years of high school my main stress was I had no clue what I was going to study at university. I thought I would know, then change my mind, then doubt myself. I felt like at 17 I had to know exactly how my future would pan out, which was totally wrong. Writing this now, at almost 20, I still don't know what I want to do with my life, so I'm just happy working till I figure it all out.
6) Comparing yourself to others restricts your happiness.
I would always think about how I was not as pretty/smart/fit/talented/stylish as someone and that's just such unhealthy way to live. I am still guilty of doing this to this day, but I'm trying to make myself more consciously aware of it. By comparing yourself to others you restrict your happiness as there will always be other people out there who are different to you. Rock who you are, in your own way.
7) Be nice to people.
I love talking to people and helping them out. The other day there was an elderly lady in a store struggling to find what she was after. "They always have everything but the thing you want," she said to me as I was searching for what I was looking for. I asked what she was after, recommended a store for her to go look in, and gave her directions to get there. Helping others and just being an all round good person is cool.
8) Drink more water.
Like, seriously... chug it! Most people don't drink enough water in there day! Staying hydrated is so important and it will also give your skin a healthy glow! Go grab a glass now!
9) Go outside your comfort zone.
whether it be riding on the back of your boyfriends motorbike, getting a tattoo or going down the big slide at the playground; Just do it! You will feel so good once it's over, I promise.
10) Drinking alcohol is over-rated.
I don't drink. I don't like being around drunk people. Maybe this is just because I'm not a party person but I don't see the hype in spending money on an over priced drink in a crowded bar or club. Enjoy a nice peppermint tea instead..
11) Treasure the small things.
When something major happens (getting sick..) you learn to appreciate the small things. Fresh sheets on my bed. Awesome. Fave TV show released another season. Amazing. Got to leave the house for a coffee with mates. Best day ever.
12) Don't spend your time worrying about people who don't worry about you.
Translation: ditch the shitty friends. If they don't care about you and put effort into the friendship, then you don't need them in your life. Remember it takes two to tango.
13) It's ok to suck at math.
To be honest, I don't use most the stuff that I was taught in maths class. As long as you know the basics, then you are sweet. This also applies to other stuff in life. It's ok not to be good at everything.
14) Being stuck in traffic is awesome.
I love being stuck in traffic because It means I can turn the radio up loud and have a dance party in my car. I'm always running super early so being late is never worry. Take what is usually a annoying/stressful/frustrating situation and turn it into a dance party
15) Op-shopping is super cool!
My grandma gave me the op-shop (thrift store) loving gene. Finding awesome clothes for super cheap; Hell yeah! What's not to love. I've found some items of clothing that I have loved for years from the op-shop.
16 ) Taking care of your mental health is important.
You'll have days where you feel invincible, and days you feel like death. Both are okay. There is no magical formula for life, and we need a balance between positive and negative; we need the hard times to appreciate the good times. And that sucks, yeah. But you've survived it before and you will survive it again - you just need to have faith that the waves will pass and leave you stronger, bigger and more experienced than you were before. There are so many ways you can get help. Make sure you talk to someone if you need to.
17) Self care isn't selfish
It's ok to put yourself first. Life get's tough sometimes and you just need a break. You don't have to go hang with friends every time they ask if you don't feel up to it. Your health is so important and you will never not regret taking the time to look after you!
19) Stop worrying so much.
Again, this is something I'm working on. Right now I'm feeling super nervous and anxious about my birthday party next week. Why, you ask? I HAVE NO CLUE. I am a chronic worrier. One of the things I want to improve on in my 20's is going with the flow... I guess I'll update you on whether that happens or not.
20) Everything happens for a reason.
When I got sick last year I saw it as a big downfall but now I have a lot of positive repercussions that have come from it. I had to leave my job because I was too sick, but now I have a job that I really enjoy and love. I was too sick so I dropped out of my makeup course. That made me realise that it wasn't actually something I wanted to pursue. I got sick so I made this blog, which has connected me with so many amazing people. Shit happens. Life goes on.
So that's 20 things I have learnt before I turned 20. Now I'm halfway to forty - how scary is that?! I'm excited to see what my twenties have to bring.